JUST WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM?

Self-esteem is one of those trendy catchwords that dance around in our vocabulary.  We speak of high self-esteem, low self-esteem and building self-esteem.

Yet for all the self-help books on the market, and titles are added to this category every day, self-esteem remains an elusive concept.  What exactly is it?  Why does it matter?  How do we get it?

Self-esteem is the value we put on ourselves.  

Part of that value involves living our lives according to that value.  High self-esteem is viewing ourselves as we do the people we admire and love.  Precious and deserving of the best.  It means, at least sometimes, putting ourselves first.

Some of us are not easy with that perception because putting ourselves first seems to infer that we're being selfish.  We like to think we're above thinking of "self" to the detriment of others, and yet we do need to respect our own wants and needs.  Otherwise how are we to respect the needs and wants of others?  When we begrudge ourselves time, solitude, space, leisure or pleasure, we'll tend to be like that with others.  If we deprive ourselves then we'll deprive others.  And what's wrong with recharging our own batteries every now and again which will enable us to continue giving to others?

But we dare not assume that high esteem is something once attained, will be ours to call upon in all situations and circumstances.  As with any other personal trait or characteristic, it can fluctuate, depending on a lot of things.  The important thing however is to realise it can go up and down according our moods and to things that happen around us, and not to give in to believing that a glitch means we've lost our self-esteem.  It will merely be misplaced for a little while waiting for yhou to rediscover it.  It will never be lost.  

SO WHERE DO YOU STAND?

Let's start at the beginning.  And that is, ost certainly, the best place to start.

Just where do you stand at the mmoent, as far as self-esteem is concerned?  Do you have high self-esteem, low self-esteem or a lack of self-esteem?  Don't waste time in explaining or excusing yourself if you lack self-esteem, because that's not the purpose this project.  If you're at this starting point, then you want to go forward, Not sit where you are at present.  The same applies to those who may have low self-esteem; it's a matter of wanting to improve your feelings and acceptance of self, not to dwell on any negative feelings that you may have at the present time.  

If you have a healthy and high self-esteem, then congratulations - you've stepped over the bridge of discontentment and uncertainty and are busy striving forward in directions that you personally choose and following dreams that you are determined will bring you satisfaction.

Keep tuned for a continuation of this Post on Self-Esteem.

Returning to the fold!

Hello everyone

Now this is going to be a surprise for all those wonderful readers who showed interest in keeping up to date with my writings only to find that in 2017, suddenly there was silence.   

As a growing older woman I fall back on the excuse that "time flies".  And honestly it does.  Yet no doubt it won't be such a surprise to learn that my writings, whether they be via my blogs or my small naîve love stories have been consistent, only not online.   What I neglected to do of course was to allow my readers to know what I was doing so they could keep track of my work, even though infrequent.  That, in retrospect, really didn't allow for me to tell the full story as to why.

And of course, telling the full story would take thousands of words.  So let's put it simply.  

After writing RoseMary's NoteBook© for more than 27 years, I gave myself permission to withdraw from writing my blog and began to concentrate on writing a few short, short stories about my years with my late partner, John.   It was while writing the first couple of short, short stories I realised I had, because of my focus on sharing information with John,  morning, noon and night, that I'd absorbed much more information about the mining industry in Australia during the 1980s/1990s until the final boom years before the mining commodies market collapsed in 2016, than I had previously thought.   So once on the highway of putting as much detailand information (personally known even though at times naîve) I became not only engrossed but obsessed with writing as much and as quickly as I could.

Growing older makes a person realise that it's very cathartic being able to write about one's life;  even  if breaking that life into sections or decades for writing's sake.

So that brings me to the subject of what I'd like to write about now.   I think I've got the answer, and now it's a matter of putting facts, dates, people, information into their respective files and starting the ball rolling.

Keep tuned, because it could be interesting.

Fond regards to all

PS  The unexpected joy however of recapturing my enthusiasm and eagerness to resume my RoseMary's NoteBook© blog, as well, has topped off a great deal of careful thought.    Join me and the team.  You're invited to participate with the NoteBook©s, send in your articles.  

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